How much can we thank God for good counsellors – whether paid, unpaid, professional or amateur? These are our mental, emotional and spiritual mirrors; people who will gently re-focus us toward a healthier direction that we perhaps do not see at the time.
While all this is going on, build up a record of inner silence. As often as you can, sit in silent contemplation. Call it prayer, call it meditation, call it whatever you want. Every quiet moment counts as a contribution toward your record of inner silence.
Healthy spouses respect the gender differences of their mate. If you’ve allowed your female friendships to lapse, make some changes. This can have a big impact on the overall state of your marriage relationship. Change some of your priorities. Perhaps your home won’t be as tidy as you’d like? Some activities might need to be dropped.
And if one on one relationship couples therapy gold coast scares the living daylights out of you; attend a relationship workshop – safety in numbers:) – Practically applicable tools that you and your partner can use to enrich your relationship. This would, at the very least be something new to try…
Of course the counselling cost biggest hurdle of all will be managing how you are going to continue to be parents to your children. This is sometimes overlooked in the emotion of the day.
I was a happy girlfriend to my husband for five years before we decided to get married. And on our wedding day, I was thinking that that was just the start of our wedded bliss. I knew that we will go through struggles like when we were just boyfriend and girlfriend. But since we have already spent 5 years of being together, I knew that we can overcome any struggle.
The important thing to remember throughout the process is that the relationship is key, and that you don’t need to have the answers. Getting caught up in doing it the ‘right way’ and worrying too much about the questions you ask will only impede the process. These concerns quickly become non-issues as you develop trust and rapport, and when you truly approach the conversation with genuine interest, concern, and selflessness.